Nurse Cox and Her Distinguished Patient

My maternal grandmother, Katherine Jones Cox, was born in Natchitoches, Louisiana in 1900. Her father worked as an overseer on a nearby sugar plantation, a fact that has always caused me some discomfort. Grandmother, as we called her, died in 1993. She had been urged to write about her life but ran out of Battle Creek Sanitarium in Michiganenergy and never put a word on paper. This is a shame because she had a story to tell. I can recount some of it, with emphasis on a very significant event from 1961.

Grandmother, orphaned during her teen years, somehow found her way to the Battle Creek Sanitarium in Michigan. There, she earned a nursing degree and began a career in a starched white uniform and cap that lasted half a century. She returned south—to Dallas, specifically. At some point in the 1920s, she married William Adair Cox, my maternal Grandmother and me, summer 1972grandfather. Whereas she was diligent and hardworking, he tended to idle about and drink. Two children came from this rather unhappy union—my mother and my uncle.

You undoubtedly remember JFK’s ill-fated visit to Texas in November 1963. In fact, he was there two other times during his presidency, both of which involved Sam Rayburn, legendary Speaker of the House of Representatives. Grandmother had a role in the first one, as will soon be made clear.

Born in 1882 in Tennessee, Rayburn moved with his family to Texas when he was five years old. While attending East Texas State Normal College, he swept floors for $3 a month. Rayburn won election to the Texas House of Representatives, and while there earned a law degree from UT. He was not in Austin long, winning election to the U.S. House of Representatives in 1913 and LBJ and Sam Rayburn, 1956remaining in that august body for 48 years. Rayburn served under Presidents Woodrow Wilson, Warren G. Harding, Calvin Coolidge, Herbert Hoover, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Harry Truman, Dwight Eisenhower and Kennedy, and had three stints as Speaker of the House—a total of 17 years. That’s longer than Henry Clay, the Kentuckian with whom he was sometimes compared.

Short and bald, Rayburn was nevertheless the tallest of Texans. He had intelligence, charisma and an uncanny ability to work with friends and foes alike. His longevity in office was aided, of course, by being a Democrat at a time when Republicans had virtually no chance of winning in the South. Robert Byrd of Virginia (57 years), Jamie Whitten of Mississippi (53 years), Carl Vinson of Georgia (50 years), Strom Thurmond of South Carolina (47 years), John Sparkman of Alabama (42 years), Russell Long of Louisiana (38 years) and Wilbur Mills of Arkansas (38 years) also benefited from this remnant of Jim Crow.

But, like his young Texas colleague Lyndon B. Johnson, Rayburn refused to sign the so-called Southern Manifesto which was intended to restrain the oncoming tide of black civil rights. He had known poverty, and he worked to pass legislation that might eradicate it. He used his considerable clout in making the New Deal a success. Furthermore, there was never a whiff of scandal about “Mr. Sam.” He did not take Grandmother with great-grandson Tyler Pennington, 1987meaningless junkets, and when he did travel he was scrupulous about paying his own expenses. Anyone who dared offer him a bribe would get a stern rebuke before he turned on his heel and went the other way. Rayburn’s interests were not just domestic, as he favored bills and policies that helped win World War II and forged close friendships with men from Europe to Southeast Asia to Africa.

Rayburn’s connection to my sweet Grandmother is as follows. In September 1961, his health began to fail. He went to Dallas and entered Baylor Hospital—where, not that it matters, I had been born nine years earlier. Joe E. Risser, a longtime friend from Bonham, served as his doctor. And by some process that I would dearly love to know, Grandmother was chosen to be his primary nurse. The hospital, on short notice, had to set up a press room with telephones and typewriters, and facilities for Rayburn’s House administrative staff. He was inundated with visitors including Kennedy, Truman, Eisenhower, Johnson, Bust of Sam Rayburn at Rayburn Library and MuseumSecretary of the Navy John Connally and former Vice President John Nance Garner. It pains me to realize how I should have sat down with her in later years and asked, “What was it like when Kennedy, et al. came striding into the room on October 9, 1961?” The newspaper accounts say they discussed politics and world events but tip-toed around the matter of his approaching death.

The president got on Air Force One and went back to Washington, although he probably suspected he would soon return for Rayburn’s funeral. Diagnosed with metastasizing pancreatic cancer, Rayburn was about to move to Risser Hospital (an early version of hospice care) in Bonham. First, however, he did something that was in keeping with his gracious character. Rayburn dictated a paragraph of text in which he thanked and praised Grandmother for nursing him and easing his pain while at Baylor Hospital. It was typed up, set in a black frame and given to her before he left for Bonham and his meeting with the grim reaper on November 16. Kennedy and a swarm of other heavy-hitting politicos were there for the funeral two days later.

In the years to come, Rayburn’s name would adorn a postage stamp, a nuclear Grandmother near the end of her lifesubmarine, elementary, junior high and high schools, highways and a lake, not to mention the Rayburn House Office Building in D.C. which was completed in 1965.

I think it is indicative that Grandmother never boasted about having taken care of Sam Rayburn during his stay at Baylor Hospital. She never pulled out that flattering text he had written for her before his departure and said, “Hey, look at this.” I doubt she ever had a more high-profile patient, but she did not seem especially awed about Rayburn. She kept it in admirable perspective. Like Rayburn, Grandmother possessed common sense, honesty and unflagging patriotism.

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15 Comments

  • andrea Posted April 1, 2020 2:24 pm

    Wow! this is the very first time I heard about your grandmother. What a story of two great person. The 43rd speaker of the House of Representatives of the United States and your very humble ‘Grandmother”,she didn’t bragged herself despite meeting the most influential politicians of US during that time.

    • Richard Posted April 1, 2020 2:30 pm

      Thank you, Andrea. I agree that it’s quite an amazing story. Grandmother, in her own way, was no less impressive than Sam Rayburn. The framed “thank you” note from him, just a month before he died…oh I wish I could find it!

  • Myline Posted April 1, 2020 7:39 pm

    It is very heart warming to write about your grandma. She must be very proud of you Rich. I believed she has influenced you in so many ways- genetically of course! Her character traits were passed on to you. That is something ! Stories like this is inspiring.

    I remember my own grand mother ( from my mother side) . I cherished memories with her – and i loved her so much i wish i had spent more time with her. Every time i dream of her, i can feel the warmth of her love. I will surely see her in the morning- the same with you! And for sure, more stories shall be written in the life beyond.

    • Richard Posted April 2, 2020 9:37 am

      I was so very pleased to be able to do this tribute to my grandmother (and to a lesser extent Rayburn). But why in the world didn’t I act as her amanuensis??? And why not secure that thing Rayburn gave her???

  • Cathy McKeever Posted April 1, 2020 11:38 pm

    What a great read and how blessed you were to have such a grandmother! I hope someday you find that paper for your safe keeping. You have such a talent in your writing regardless of what story you are telling . Your grandmother would be so
    Proud of you!

    • Richard Posted April 2, 2020 9:39 am

      Oh, Cathy, I wish there was a way to find that thing Rayburn did for her. But I fear it is gone. The least I could do was to write about her in the present piece…. It will eventually be published in my 24th book, More Notes from a Febrile Keyboard.

  • Janene Esser Carpenter Posted April 2, 2020 1:49 am

    Great read about your grandmother. I believe that generation and our parent’s didn’t talk about things as much as we do now. I try and tell my grandkids things but I know they aren’t really interested. I think it comes with age we all wish we had listened more and asked more questions. Thank you for sharing. Stay safe, stay healthy.

    • Richard Posted April 2, 2020 9:40 am

      Thank you, Janene–fellow Hawk, Highlander and Cougar!

  • Ken McKee Posted April 2, 2020 11:25 am

    Great historical story, you are blessed with impressive linage. In this period of stretched healthcare workers, my heart is very sad for the price they are paying and will pay, they are true unsung heroes. My own younger sister, Eileen, was operations head nurse at the same Baylor years ago as head cardiac operations nurse. She passed a few years ago of a wicked fast moving cancer. She temporarily helped save Mickey Mantle but he was nothing like Rayburn. Keep up the good work my friend.

    • Richard Posted April 2, 2020 11:29 am

      Kenny, your words are much appreciated. So sorry to hear about your younger sis Eileen.

  • Kevin Nietmann Posted April 7, 2020 9:31 pm

    Richard-Great story and you had a great grandmother. We addressed our Grandmother as Grandmother like you. I guess maybe it’s a Texas custom. Up here in Maryland it’s grandma and grandpa.

    • Richard Posted April 9, 2020 9:03 pm

      Thanks, Kevin. This was my small tribute to her.

  • Elly Posted January 13, 2023 4:03 pm

    Now I know where you inherited your honest character, the fact that you are always next to those in need, you look like your grandmother.
    I would have liked to have a grandmother or at least a mother that I could write about, but I was orphaned at a young age. Like your grandmother, I got a job at a recovery center for the elderly, as you know, I dedicated my life to helping others and I don’t regret it, if I had to do it all over again I would do the same. Congratulations for the message, keep going .

    • Richard Posted January 13, 2023 5:24 pm

      Who would understand her better than you, a nurse!

  • Gary+Scoggins Posted January 14, 2023 12:54 am

    Wonderful story about your grandmother and how she was connected to Rayburn, Kennedy, et al.
    This reminds me of the theory of six degrees of separation, which is the idea that all people are six or fewer social connections away from each other.
    In that regard, I see that you were one degree away from some of the most powerful and influential people in the country at that time. Your grandmother obviously never thought of networking with these people for personal gain. But networking is the way of life to achieve your personal goals. After all it is not so much what you know, rather it is who you know.
    Networking and quid pro quo are normal in politics even with Rayburn as you indicated this his popularity and success were a result of his ability to form and negotiate deals with both sides of the aisle.
    So, assuming the theory of six degrees is valid for everyone, then that means there is bound to be a story like this for all of us too. For you, I think of Jikji. Wouldn’t that have been helpful for you to have been directly connected with the right person in France. Too, with your propensity for prose, no telling who is connected to you unawares. Too, with your opining, you are enriching all our lives for the better. And for that we are very grateful for you scholarship.

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